find new friends in HK

[hanako]

Hi rhkg

I am living on HK side, I usually play tennis with my hushand at the weekend especially at night times. I play Victoria park, Causeway bay ground, and HK tennis centre on Wong Nai Chung Gap road. How about you?

[robino]

Dear Hanako, you are really great to be so, you like to meet new ppl, whom you like to call friends, not only orally, but heartedly as well. it says you love life and you are always devoted to it.

Don't hesitate to write me at my email seashoresnow at yahoo dot co dot uk. you will have chance to meet a new real friend this time...

[sushi]

hi! i am new at this site...and hoping to also get to know people i can hang out with...just transferred here in hk...from china...and all my friends are there...so i am quite alone here...and it's really not good for my sanity...hehehe

[avster]

Sushi...I think I got the same problem as you...I think I need to find some friends here...I in HK for 2wks and no nobody here...Really lonely...

[Netfiend]

sushi & avster

Ditto -- but not that bad ...

[Totem]

I like making new friends (from different countries), playing tennis and badminton, and outdoor activites e.g. BBQ.

I don't mind playing tennis/badminton in HK side even though I live in NT. Pls count me in if you guys have any gathering!

[NEERAJ]

It may be correct to say that it's difficult to get 'true friends' in HK, but it may also not correct to say so. I am a local and have been on and off trying to meet nice and decent friends (with locals & expats) and I have had both bad luck & good luck. I would like to share some of my ‘experience’, which may not be all correct. Just a sharing though.

Personally, I think some people have problem in having friends with whom you can talk sensibly and hang out like 'normal mates' (or what you say 'true' friends here) is because they limit their gathering to 'clubbing'. (I admit that I, like the majority of people, usually start the first few gatherings in pubs where give you noisy atmosphere to kill off dead-airs, if any) Every time they meet, they meet in a pub, drink and then talk, laugh a lot and say goodbye. When you get up next morning, you can hardly recall any 'significant things' you have talked to these people. However, you go on having these kind of meet ups for a while then get frustrated because these bunch of friends seem like "friends can only having fun but no more".

And, some people just sit at home after attending some gatherings rather than inviting your new friends out for more exploration of their character, their hobbies, etc. So it ends up feeling the same - no friends.

We are all different - the reason we can be friends with someone but not with some others because we share something similar (hobbies, chat topics, life values, jokes, background whatever). If I notice someone whom I think I can befriend, instead of going to pubs, I will try to do other stuff with them, such as playing sports, hiking, beaching, going to the movies, or, if I know they live close-by, I will simply ask them out for a cup of coffee to spend a lazy afternoon in chats, etc. Then gradually, you will get a better idea if you guys can really get along together by the time you have contacts more in a varied ways, I mean in a ‘varied’ ways! Sometimes I have bad luck because either myself or my friends lost interest in meeting up so friendship has gone; but I also have made some really good friends and still keep contacts on and off, which I consider 'good luck'.

Anyway, it takes two to tango. When you find someone you like to befriend, you have to see if that person feels the same for you. You can't force it. Friendship grows naturally but we also need to give some efforts and, most importantly, sincerity. Personally, if someone only want to meet up for drinks but nothing else, from my own experience, there is very remote chance to build up ‘true’ friendship with them. It is not difficult to meet new people (from this site, for example), but you have to know how to develop it into 'friendship'.

HI,

i agree with every little but u have put in here.as ppl are diffrnt its not neccesary that we might always strike a cord with everyone we meet.

for me friendship is the ultimate thing in life...its a relation that does not need to be defined,there are no reservations in friendship like they say "IN FRIENDSHIP NO SORRYS NO THANK YOUS",theres always that blind faith that yes someones gonna be around when things are looking down for you...since the time i have come to hongkong i havent had many friends..yes have had a few..but things just went blur after a few times..i guess it was their work or maybe some other things i dont know...

i miss my friends back home..a huge gang since my school days and my three precious friends who have been my strength for me..i wish to make more friends and be a good friend to everyone i meet n this place looks like the right place.

[wildboarhk]

It may be correct to say that it's difficult to get 'true friends' in HK, but it may also not correct to say so. I am a local and have been on and off trying to meet nice and decent friends (with locals & expats) and I have had both bad luck & good luck. I would like to share some of my ‘experience’, which may not be all correct. Just a sharing though.

Personally, I think some people have problem in having friends with whom you can talk sensibly and hang out like 'normal mates' (or what you say 'true' friends here) is because they limit their gathering to 'clubbing'. (I admit that I, like the majority of people, usually start the first few gatherings in pubs where give you noisy atmosphere to kill off dead-airs, if any) Every time they meet, they meet in a pub, drink and then talk, laugh a lot and say goodbye. When you get up next morning, you can hardly recall any 'significant things' you have talked to these people. However, you go on having these kind of meet ups for a while then get frustrated because these bunch of friends seem like "friends can only having fun but no more".

And, some people just sit at home after attending some gatherings rather than inviting your new friends out for more exploration of their character, their hobbies, etc. So it ends up feeling the same - no friends.

We are all different - the reason we can be friends with someone but not with some others because we share something similar (hobbies, chat topics, life values, jokes, background whatever). If I notice someone whom I think I can befriend, instead of going to pubs, I will try to do other stuff with them, such as playing sports, hiking, beaching, going to the movies, or, if I know they live close-by, I will simply ask them out for a cup of coffee to spend a lazy afternoon in chats, etc. Then gradually, you will get a better idea if you guys can really get along together by the time you have contacts more in a varied ways, I mean in a ‘varied’ ways! Sometimes I have bad luck because either myself or my friends lost interest in meeting up so friendship has gone; but I also have made some really good friends and still keep contacts on and off, which I consider 'good luck'.

Anyway, it takes two to tango. When you find someone you like to befriend, you have to see if that person feels the same for you. You can't force it. Friendship grows naturally but we also need to give some efforts and, most importantly, sincerity. Personally, if someone only want to meet up for drinks but nothing else, from my own experience, there is very remote chance to build up ‘true’ friendship with them. It is not difficult to meet new people (from this site, for example), but you have to know how to develop it into 'friendship'.

Totally agree with Jessica.

I been in Hong Kong for 6 years and I honestly, I haven't made that many 'true friends' here, part of the reason is because I do a lot of traveling for work and seldom have the time to meet anyone. It's difficult finding people on the same wave lenght and feel that that person is the type who really can be a true friend. Like Jessica said, theres gathering, drinks at the pub, laughs and so on, but its nothing of significant when you wake up the next morning.

I have true friends who I have known since my school days and I'd probably call them life time friends. They are in other countries and we probably get to meet 2 times a year, but despite the distance etc...nothing changes. We always have a good time everytime we meet and there is always something to remember from it. In my personal opinion, a true friend is someone who is willing to give and not expecting something in return. They are people you will always enjoy value time with no matter what the occasion is and there will always be memories of your friendship the is deeply imprinted in your head.

[curios]

Those who fall in the category above, and want to meet other ladies for support network, shall we all meet up???

email me - [email protected]

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Hi,

I am Ray, who is from Hong Kong and would like to be your friend if
you don't mind. It's true that it's not easy to make friends in Hong
Kong if you are new. Even people here sometimes do complain it is hard to
make friends, the reasons could be "life isn't meant to be easy" people
here are always busy; get up early and finish work late.

Pls drop me a line if you want to be my friend.

Kind regards
Ray