Unplanned pregnancy for young HK teacher

angeluscomplex · 18-02-2019, 07:42 PM

Yeah, tell your boss to do one, I mean, you're deluding yourself by gambling on your boss being sweet and understanding. By all means end up unemployed with no reference, pregnant, a single parent in a city state with no child welfare system. Let's see who bites your job applications. No one is indispensable at their job, there are a billion other people who aren't single mothers who will take your job at a snap.

I thought that being a parent meant being a mature adult, not some stupid, hormonal, adolescent entity.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gicoFxWB0IU

dumbdonkey · 18-02-2019, 08:11 PM

Be proud of being pregnant
Be proud to be a parent
Be proud of raising a child
Don’t take any shit from anyone
A pregnant teacher is as good as any one else

angeluscomplex · 18-02-2019, 08:21 PM

It tickles me that there are people who consider the worst possible ramification of unprotected sex ( intended or not) is pregnancy and not contracting STDs. such as HIV./AIDS,/HPV. etc.

hullexile · 18-02-2019, 09:04 PM

Originally Posted by angeluscomplex:

Yeah, tell your boss to do one, I mean, you're deluding yourself by gambling on your boss being sweet and understanding. By all means end up unemployed with no reference, pregnant, a single parent in a city state with no child welfare system. Let's see who bites your job applications. No one is indispensable at their job, there are a billion other people who aren't single mothers who will take your job at a snap.

I thought that being a parent meant being a mature adult, not some stupid, hormonal, adolescent entity.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gicoFxWB0IU

What is your hang up about pregnancy?

Golem · 18-02-2019, 11:15 PM

Amazing the number of suggestions...Lie, cheat, put up with a negative environment because it's your right. I have only one simple advice. Do what will make you the happiest. Life is too short to be miserable especially if you're pregnant. There are other jobs and places that will welcome you regardless of your status. Don't do anything you don't want to do for a few thousand dollars or because you feel it's an obligation or you're entitled. You're pregnant, try to be happy...

MABinPengChau · 19-02-2019, 06:12 AM

Yes, do what makes you happy- to a point- there is now a child to think about, a very expensive and very needy little bundle of joy. Most people need a job to get by, when I got pregnant I could not have made it more than 60 days without my paycheck. And the reality is that you are unlikely to find good-paying jobs, mid-year, in any school, assuming even that another school will hire you, pregnant (yes, there is still discrimination out there). So sometimes you need to endure a rough situation for the sake of that baby. That is the responsible thing because it's no longer just about you. I stayed in a crap situation, finished law school and was able to provide a good life for my daughter. If OP can stick it out, she may have a great career at this school yet all while providing a good life for the child and providing that child access to its (presumably HK-based) father.

pin · 19-02-2019, 07:59 AM

Firstly, congrats.

Secondly, there are lots of views already on this thread. At the end of the day you have to take it on board and then decide whats best for you and your baby.

HK employment laws are really really crap, but one area where they are very clear is what happens to a lady while pregnant. Basically you employer cannot touch you. Please take that into comfort when deciding your next step.

Can I ask, will the potential father be involved? What about your's and his family? Will you have some sort of support network during and after pregnancy? If you quit your job, what will you do?

HKTeacherInNeed · 19-02-2019, 11:40 AM

Originally Posted by pin:

Can I ask, will the potential father be involved? What about your's and his family? Will you have some sort of support network during and after pregnancy? If you quit your job, what will you do?

Hi, yes the father is very involved and he's in a stable job. My family has been very supportive and I will be moving in with the father in a few weeks. I'm sure there's plenty of part-time work that I can take up while I still can. It's just being in the school is too much for me.

civil_servant · 19-02-2019, 11:49 AM

Originally Posted by HKTeacherInNeed:

Hi, yes the father is very involved and he's in a stable job. My family has been very supportive and I will be moving in with the father in a few weeks. I'm sure there's plenty of part-time work that I can take up while I still can. It's just being in the school is too much for me.

In that case, go for it. Enjoy your time off. This decision won't have a long-term impact on your career.

MABinPengChau · 19-02-2019, 01:47 PM

Just be careful of visa issues for part-time work- right now the visa is for the school so if you get another job you need another visa- unless you already have that sorted through some other kind of visa (PR or dependent or whatever, sorry if I didn't already pick up on that).
Glad to hear the father is on board and that's all working out well for you- nice that you'll have the extra time to spend with the baby once he/she is here, you never get that time again...