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  1. #31

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elegiaque:
    No. It's nobody's business, and nobody's place to judge. Absolutely no need to fabricate stories when there is no need to offer stories in the first place.

    I can't believe it's 2018.
    I think the OP is one to talk and needs a story. If she was quiet and didn't care, then she wouldn't be posting her concern. I wouldn't care, if they don't like you then tell them to F themselves. Plenty of jobs out there and life is too short to deal with BS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MandM!:
    It's 2019
    It's 20-NINETEEN! Even worse!!!
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    Yeah, tell your boss to do one, I mean, you're deluding yourself by gambling on your boss being sweet and understanding. By all means end up unemployed with no reference, pregnant, a single parent in a city state with no child welfare system. Let's see who bites your job applications. No one is indispensable at their job, there are a billion other people who aren't single mothers who will take your job at a snap.






    I thought that being a parent meant being a mature adult, not some stupid, hormonal, adolescent entity.



    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gicoFxWB0IU

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    Be proud of being pregnant
    Be proud to be a parent
    Be proud of raising a child
    Don’t take any shit from anyone
    A pregnant teacher is as good as any one else

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    It tickles me that there are people who consider the worst possible ramification of unprotected sex ( intended or not) is pregnancy and not contracting STDs. such as HIV./AIDS,/HPV. etc.


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    Quote Originally Posted by angeluscomplex:
    It tickles me that there are people who consider the worst possible ramification of unprotected sex ( intended or not) is pregnancy and not contracting STDs. such as HIV./AIDS,/HPV. etc.
    I don't think you're adding anything to this thread. Nobody here needs your sex education.

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    Quote Originally Posted by angeluscomplex:
    Yeah, tell your boss to do one, I mean, you're deluding yourself by gambling on your boss being sweet and understanding. By all means end up unemployed with no reference, pregnant, a single parent in a city state with no child welfare system. Let's see who bites your job applications. No one is indispensable at their job, there are a billion other people who aren't single mothers who will take your job at a snap.






    I thought that being a parent meant being a mature adult, not some stupid, hormonal, adolescent entity.



    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gicoFxWB0IU
    What is your hang up about pregnancy?

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    Amazing the number of suggestions...Lie, cheat, put up with a negative environment because it's your right. I have only one simple advice. Do what will make you the happiest. Life is too short to be miserable especially if you're pregnant. There are other jobs and places that will welcome you regardless of your status. Don't do anything you don't want to do for a few thousand dollars or because you feel it's an obligation or you're entitled. You're pregnant, try to be happy...

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    Yes, do what makes you happy- to a point- there is now a child to think about, a very expensive and very needy little bundle of joy. Most people need a job to get by, when I got pregnant I could not have made it more than 60 days without my paycheck. And the reality is that you are unlikely to find good-paying jobs, mid-year, in any school, assuming even that another school will hire you, pregnant (yes, there is still discrimination out there). So sometimes you need to endure a rough situation for the sake of that baby. That is the responsible thing because it's no longer just about you. I stayed in a crap situation, finished law school and was able to provide a good life for my daughter. If OP can stick it out, she may have a great career at this school yet all while providing a good life for the child and providing that child access to its (presumably HK-based) father.


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    Firstly, congrats.

    Secondly, there are lots of views already on this thread. At the end of the day you have to take it on board and then decide whats best for you and your baby.

    HK employment laws are really really crap, but one area where they are very clear is what happens to a lady while pregnant. Basically you employer cannot touch you. Please take that into comfort when deciding your next step.

    Can I ask, will the potential father be involved? What about your's and his family? Will you have some sort of support network during and after pregnancy? If you quit your job, what will you do?

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