1) I quoted you verbatim so how could I twist your words?
2)You haven't upset me at all - I'm giving you advice - if you choose not to take it that's up to you & won't be my loss.
3); again - you are measuring by your western standards and not understanding at all, nor trying to understand why there is a different point of view. Can you think why a family might want (in particular a son) to get a stable job with a respected employer and why this might be seen as 'supportive' of the family as a whole not unsupportive of an individual (being selfish)? Can you then understand the historical reasons for this so that say when you are in a meeting with prospective Asian clients you can tread carefully when discussing family and business?So if your own family look down on you for doing something you love...
If my posts with very light criticism and advice cause you to get your back up so fast then you'd best grow a thicker skin if you are going to work in Asia. The airport regularly flies back out people who thought that it was a case of turning up, smiling and saying 'I will show you...'. Most of the people who succeed are people who spent a while listening and watching & learning.