Is it a crazy idea?

[Maracas Bay]

The question is whether it is a good idea to move with a BABY to a new place if your husband can't be there on a daily basis..... going somewhere alone is different from going somewhere with a child and adjusting to life there.

[MASTER-OF-HK]

If there's doubt, then there is no doubt.

[Satay Sue]

Mr SS worked long hours when my son was born in Tokyo and as a result he didn't get up in the night to help and I didn't expect him to. Yes, it was tough.... Suggest you also post this on Geobaby and get a lot of new parents' views.

[Maracas Bay]

Thanks SS, I do know it's hard when you are in another country far away from family who can help... no sisters or aunties to assist you.... and in Tokyo def no babysitters! A friend in Tokyo told me the same thing.........

[justjoe86]

Sounds like an imaginary place! What's the name of the island?

[Mat]

It should be fine if you prepare well.I have friends who moved to HK, BKK, Tokyo, Mexico with babies not older than 6 months old or only on the way and they were all very fine.It's not an issue if you do not let it be an issue.I assume you husband is in the Hospitality Industry? and the islands are probably Puket or Ko Samui? Which means it has plenty of expats/trourists, good medical facilities and you can easily fly in/out of the place if need be. (not like Fiji which is in the middle of nowhere :P)If it is a good career move and for a few years only (ie you might miss the big city after a while) I would do it.

[Trebor]

If there's doubt, then there is no doubt.

That's what i say about ladyboys.

[Maracas Bay]

Thanks Mat. I know friends who have had to do it and survived. Their husbands were in oil or aviation, though, and were gone for days, or in the case of oil, weeks and months at a time. Must be so difficult!

I would imagine the make-or-break is whether you can make friends and adjust to the new life there.

[jimbo]

Mat

I wouldn't exactly call Phuket a paradise, It's a sleazy craphole

[TheBrit]

It should be fine if you prepare well.I have friends who moved to HK, BKK, Tokyo, Mexico with babies not older than 6 months old or only on the way and they were all very fine.I

I think the critical time for most new parents is the first few months after birth - that is when everything is new, that's when sleep deprivation hits hardest and that is the point of maximum stress.

By the time the baby has reached 6 months they are likely to be sleeping through the night, settled into a routine and everything is considerably more relaxed.

I wouldn't think combining a country move, having a partially absentee partner and looking after your first newborn is a great idea. Getting settled in a few months before birth, or moving after 6 months would be much better options.