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    Quote Originally Posted by merchantms:
    I said similar professions to mine. No clue what you do/did for a living but among my peer group yes, this is the case. A few have had grandma move into the house actually to help full time.
    Is your profession being a millionaire? :P I never met anyone who has had a nanny back home. Everybody grew up in a two working parent household without their grandparents around. My mom would pick us up from day school after she finished work and once we were old enough we would ride our bikes back home and eat microwave lunches.
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    kudos to you guys... if only my parents were this thoughtful back then

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    Quote Originally Posted by merchantms:
    I said similar professions to mine. No clue what you do/did for a living but among my peer group yes, this is the case. A few have had grandma move into the house actually to help full time.
    Your peer group is not normal then. I would imagine in the UK around 0.00001% families have a nanny. Yes it is hard work and takes some sacrifice but to have that as a reason for not moving to another country is very sad. Best not have kids.

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    So when school ends at 2 and work ends at 6, where are the kids?

    Paid childcare or family help.

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    It’s obvious many of you not know professional couples with children under 10 currently living in London, NY, etc.

    The only way to make it work without paying for care or having family help is for one person to leave work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by merchantms:
    It’s obvious many of you not know professional couples with children under 10 currently living in London, NY, etc.

    The only way to make it work without paying for care or having family help is for one person to leave work.
    True I do not know these people in London. I do know many many couples in the UK though. None have a helper. Very few could afford a helper at UK rates.

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    https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-04-...lemma/12105568

    https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-tyne-54209758

    https://www.usnews.com/news/best-sta...onavirus-risks

    According to Dr. Jennifer Mullendore, interim health director for Buncombe County, 40% of children in the United States are watched by grandparents when they’re not in school or child care centers.
    Who’s out of touch...the parents who know how hellish childcare is in Europe/N America or the ones who say you can manage without family help or paid care.
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    Quote Originally Posted by merchantms:
    https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-04-...lemma/12105568

    https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-tyne-54209758

    https://www.usnews.com/news/best-sta...onavirus-risks



    Who’s out of touch...the parents who know how hellish childcare is in Europe/N America or the ones who say you can manage without family help or paid care.
    You are completely missing the point. The argument was that HKers didn't move abroad because of the lack of helpers. You are now including paid care. Our kids went to breakfast club for an hour and a quarter before school. But most people have work arounds using friends with kids, adjusting hours, kids looking after themselves for a while, etc.

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    I think there are often a lot of social pressures to have kids and it's just "what you do" in your mid-age. But I notice there are more and more people who aren't really interested in parenting, perhaps because there are indeed so many alternative opportunities for women nowadays.

    Again, it comes off as kind of sad that people have chosen to have kids but come across as if they are more of a nuisance to planning daily life.

    I don't deny having kids in Hong Kong, or any of these "world's most expensive cities", would be very tough, especially if you want the benefit of two incomes. But that's not the reality for the rest of the world...

    I wish people would just be more open to considering alternatives to becoming biological parents. I think the 21st century needs a radical rethinking of what "parenting" means and alternative ways to fulfill those desires.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elegiaque:
    I wish people would just be more open to considering alternatives to becoming biological parents. I think the 21st century needs a radical rethinking of what "parenting" means and alternative ways to fulfill those desires.
    What scenarios did you have in mind?
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