I'm just curious how you brought two kids into the world who you can't manage to take care of on your own? Parents all over the world are taking their kids on trips on their own.
I'm just curious how you brought two kids into the world who you can't manage to take care of on your own? Parents all over the world are taking their kids on trips on their own.
It's just my opinion. I've been quite shocked to learn through this forum how people outsource parenting to domestic helpers (like teeth brushing?!). It's just my opinion/belief that if people are going to bring more humans onto this earth, they need to take a lot of personal responsibility for them. I know other people have different opinions, and I know each persons situation is unique with different priorities.Original Post Deleted
But in this case, I can imagine the helper might be glad for an opportunity to travel aboard and see a completely new side of the world... it could be a great opportunity.
To take possession of their employee's passport? No, it's not.
To bring them w/them, yes, that's the OP's choice. But not to hold onto the DH's passport. If Canada is like I assume it is - like the US, just better, if colder - then the employer has no right to take possession of their employee's passport. And the employee is free to choose to leave their employer.
@bobLoblaw I guess you wish to ignore the rest of my post so fine.
I would not take a helpers passport, I have said that already. OP is freaking out that her DH will run away, that is the only way to ensure she doesn't! You can't own a human being obviously.
My family who have taken helpers on vacation come from a much poorer country than Hong Kong with much more incentive of running away. If you are a good employer, it won't happen.
I know that the vast majority of the world copes without helpers but if they could afford to would they? We had a helper in HK and in the Philippines but don't in the UK. Is this because we have changed our views on helpers and now consider it modern slavery. No, it is because we can't afford one in the UK.
Completely off topic but did you know someone working 36 hours a week on minimum wage in the UK would put you in the top 10% of earners in the world?
If I've understood you correctly, you're saying that you wouldn't personally hold a helper's passport, but that you understand why other people do, and can sympathize with them for holding their helper's passport. To me, that doesn't cut it. But,If I've misunderstood you, correct me.
I see someone who holds onto their helper's passport as a wannabe slave owner. I have no sympathy for them at all. They are violating the human rights of their employees, and they are violating the laws of many of the nations they would be visiting.
If as the OP my primary concern were that my helper would run off if I take her on vacation, I would either:
A) not take the helper
B) take the helper's passport to ensure she doesn't run
Given that she is claiming inability to manage a month in Canada without the helper, then she only has one option. It's not a good one.
Otherwise she can offer a bonus or other incentive, this still cannot ensure she doesn't run but if she is a good employee then she will feel valued in such a case and not run off.
My grandma has had helpers run from her home city many times because (I love her but being honest) she is not the best employer and is harsh with them. Other relatives have had the same helpers for 20 years. As you might imagine my grandma does not bring any helper with her when she travels, the others do with no problem.
Even if you keep the helper's passport, she can run if she feels she will have better opportunities