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  1. #21

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    If the genders were reversed then if he had been the breadwinner while she stayed home and looked after the house and kids, she would almost automatically get 50%.

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    As others have said, we only have one side of the story here, so I don't want to draw any conclusions about anyone involved. Just two comments, for general applicability.

    1. Conservative Christian doesn't mean putting up with abuse or injustice, or imprudently leaving yourself or your children open to harm. There's a million examples in the Bible. She doesn't have to get a divorce just because he had an affair - that's a personal decision for each couple to figure out. Some couples do stay together and work things out.

    But if he's abusive and exploitative (this applies to pyschological abuse as well as physical), she's also under no obligation to stay in that situation. If she believes marriage is for life to the same person, then she can just stay away from forming another marriage-type relationship with another person. Rules don't say you have to stay in the same household living together with the guy as a couple.

    2. Also doesn't rule out getting smart lawyer who's used to dealing with shit and manipulation. Think Paul of Tarsus. OK, not a lawyer per se but not a pushover by any means. As long as she's ethical in her dealings with husband and kids, she should be ok.

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    Wouldnt you rather look for a radical atheist divorce lawyer to get what she deserves? I mean a conservative would just ask her to go back to the kitchen.

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    Can anyone give a contact number of someone who can really help her so she could consult the matter.

    She just want to keep her kids.


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    This has been going o for too long. She has been married with the person for more than 18 years.

    He had sex with his ex girlfriend when she was pregnant with their child.

    He bashed her head to the headboard 5 days before his mother passed away.

    2 days after the incident she still paid for all his health issues bills in Singapore.

    3 days after his health procedure his mother passed away. She paid for the burial cost about 40 days after because in HK wake and burial have to be on waiting list.

    After all these she is still trying to work things out by going to Christian marriage counselling.... church counselling.

    Her husband has not worked for over 10 years.

    So anyone got a good contact or something ?


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    I am pretty sure Jesus was against riches! Give all the money to the hubby and move to a monastery. This is the only appropriate Christian divorce! Think about the afterlife


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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyday
    This has been going o for too long. She has been married with the person for more than 18 years.

    He had sex with his ex girlfriend when she was pregnant with their child.

    He bashed her head to the headboard 5 days before his mother passed away.

    2 days after the incident she still paid for all his health issues bills in Singapore.

    3 days after his health procedure his mother passed away. She paid for the burial cost about 40 days after because in HK wake and burial have to be on waiting list.

    After all these she is still trying to work things out by going to Christian marriage counselling.... church counselling.

    Her husband has not worked for over 10 years.

    So anyone got a good contact or something ?
    No sorry, she could ask at the churches. I did find a good Christian counsellor in the UK but don't know any in the UK.

    (Mention religion on here and the mouths just start frothing )

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    Quote Originally Posted by dumbdonkey
    I mean a conservative would just ask her to go back to the kitchen.
    Not necessarily. You just need someone with common sense.

    But I agree with the point about the lawyer. Get the best lawyer for these cases and that she feels she can communicate with and makes her comfortable. Never mind their beliefs.

    Separately, get counselling - it'll help her, and it'll arm her for managing relationships with the guy and with the kid. If it works best for her to get counselling is with someone/organisation with Christian beliefs, then she can start with trying those. If they're not working for her, she'll feel it. (e.g someone who says you should go back and get bashed up is clearly not the right counselor, regardless of belief system!)
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    Quote Originally Posted by hullexile
    No sorry, she could ask at the churches. I did find a good Christian counsellor in the UK but don't know any in the UK.

    (Mention religion on here and the mouths just start frothing )
    I've known people who've benefited from this group's services (marriage, drug abuse etc). Some weren't Christian, others weren't, all seemed fine with the results. (The non-Christian drug addict and his extended family's lives were all turned around, and some of them are volunteering there now as a result)

    https://family.caritas.org.hk/zh-hk/services/view/63 - list of all their family related services/support. (sorry, couldn't find any English version)

    More to the point:
    ???????? - ????Fun??. Couldn't find an english website, but it'll be obvious from each email address which district they're in. Get her to call the nearest office that's convenient for her.

    Best wishes to her and tell her to hang in there - not an easy time for her or the kids!
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    Here's another one. English website available, this time. With specific provisions for cases like hers.

    (No idea why the links below keep defaulting to Chinese version. Just click on EN and there will be nice, detailed english versions!)
    https://cmac.org.hk/en/services_deta...?c1id=8&c2id=3

    If she decides to go for separation/divorce, this will help with the kids etc:
    https://cmac.org.hk/en/services_deta...?c1id=8&c2id=6

    And for aftercare, again, if she goes for the divorce option:
    https://divorce.org.hk/
    https://coparenting.org.hk/

    Hope these help!


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