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Re-evaluating EVERYTHING!!! #coronavirus

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    Quote Originally Posted by hullexile
    How on earth do you know it is more common than not? I think you are talking about an issue personal to you or your friends not general. I know or have known so many older loving couples (admittedly not always their first marriage ).
    Because by not drawing inferences from your own observations, you will be more open to trial and error where it is better to not do the trial part. I like the final point you made. Yes, the brave make changes to try to have better lives and finally be happy. I have seen this too. You will not hear people talk about their family situation unless they invite you in. From what I have seen, having a happy and harmonious home is a blessing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Coolboy
    No. You are confused about the definition of introverts. I did not say introverts is a negative trait. It is a normal part of the spectrum of human personality traits. But that does not mean introvert need no friends. They prefer to be rather more selective who they want to share their time with. As for not needing any friends at all, that only applies to a relatively small minority, a subset of introverts.
    Introvert: noun a shy, reticent person.

    Not needing friends is not a subset of introverts. Some people may be introvert and socially self-sufficient, some outgoing but think more venn diagram intersection, not subset. And in modern society being introverted does very much have negative connotations.

    One thing I would say is healthy is to learn to let go...

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    Quote Originally Posted by kimwy66
    Not needing friends is not a subset of introverts. Some people may be introvert and socially self-sufficient, some outgoing but think more venn diagram intersection, not subset. And in modern society being introverted does very much have negative connotations.

    One thing I would say is healthy is to learn to let go...
    It is true Western society do have a preference for extroverts, but it is not correct to say therefore introverts automatically has a negative connotation. There are many highly accomplished and gifted introverts after all.

    As for not needing friends at all, again, those are outlier cases, a minority. I have yet to meet any self-procliamed extrovert who has no friends. They may not have close friends, but no friends at all are unusual, unless they also have mental issues as well. After all, humans evolve to be social animals, to live in groups and developing a social identity based on groups. Most of us therefore evolved to have an innate need for a sense of belonging. Those who do not feel any sense of belonging to any other human is...unusual.

    Of course, I am not implying a value judgement on someone who feels no need for friends or think having friends or social contact is a burden, I'm just saying those are in the...minority.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Chips
    I've already said that the virus is the straw that broke the camel's back with regard to leaving HK, but it runs so much deeper!

    I've now been, more or less, off work for over a month... I do have a few things to do but they never take more than an hour out of the day...

    Yet I am still busy and thoroughly enjoying the time with my family...

    Every day we take a several hours long hike.
    Every day we play music together.
    Every day we eat together.
    Every day we do the chores together.
    Every day we hang out and watch TV or play on the Switch.

    I don't want more than this...

    I don't want to go back to having 40 - 50 hours less of this every week.

    Re-evaluating the current situation - I'm just longing to get back to work - not because I'm afraid of missing a paycheck or the career being on hold. I just want to get back. It's getting monotonous by the day, stuck at home with kids around who wreck havoc in my daily life. Came over to live with the cousin and her family (of four) and I realized just how much I prefer to be on my own being not much of a family person. Also, it made me wonder whether or not one day, I will be wishing to be a mother - good heavens!! coronavirus has gotten me (into) thinking about things I wasn't planning to think.

    Even as a worst sample of the species of introvert, I've stopped enjoying the luxury of solitude at the moment.

    In short, compared to the disruptions (to life) imposed by the protests, the present situation is making me more "suffocated" - perhaps, it's because the protests didn't prevent our movement and freedom ( yeah, fighting against this invisible enemy Vs the clearly visible police officers, Carrie Lam and her weird rules/laws is entirely a 360 degree different scenario).
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    Quote Originally Posted by DimSumBond
    I was going to go in to more details about marital status and types of wives/ partners. The happier guys are the ones who get henpecked by young fresh girls with glowing skin. The miserable ones are still physically with their 20 years+ wives.

    Anyways, the majority of men will get older with their original wives whilst being unhappy and cynical. The brave will have the resources to spend the rest of their days with younger girls. No doubt revitalizing their lives without a doubt, I can see how much older people enjoy staring at younger people and they also want to interact with them. Can't say the same for their own peers... they spend time with them due to the lack of options me thinks.
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