dear all
i just hired a helper directly without an agent 2 months ago as she was introduced by my friend. she has then returned to philippines and now waiting for her visa to return to hk.
during this period she called me and said her kids were sick and needed to borrow $1,000. so i lent to her and later found out she had also borrowed a thousand from my friend as well. And whats more is that she is now telling me her mum is dying and cant start work on time as agreed.
I dont have a good feeling about this as it is already not a good start. My question is, what is the procedure of sacking a helper, or ending a contract, when she hasnt even started yet. my concern is the contract that i signed with her for 2 yrs. wondering how to get out of this agreement.
it would be great if anyone has any advice
regards
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19-09-2009, 08:09 PM #1
Helper Problems
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19-09-2009, 08:17 PM #2
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20-09-2009, 12:30 AM #3
wow... another maid's money borrowing story.
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21-09-2009, 11:40 AM #4
a bit too late for this OP, but for the future, i would defintely recommend not getting too personally attached to your domestic helpers.
You can be friendly, but remember you are their employer and they are your employee... would you ask your boss to lend money to you? would you lend money to your employee? i wouldn't because it has the potential to just make things messy...
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22-09-2009, 08:13 AM #5
Last edited by smelly; 22-09-2009 at 08:17 AM.
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22-09-2009, 12:25 PM #6
There's a difference between getting to know someone personally, and lending them money though - particularly when the OP seems to have lent her money before she's moved in and he / she's got to know her.
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22-09-2009, 12:35 PM #7
Just end the contract on the grounds of frustration - and take Hull's advice
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22-09-2009, 01:30 PM #8
If you and your friend contributed two thousand I wonder how many other kind souls hve contributed to her benevolent fund?
I wonder if you have been scammed at IFC by a well dressed fellow [actually there are several] who always seem to be in an awful pickle and need a loan of taxi money to sort things out.
I generally offer to help them on the spot by reporting the loss/theft of their wallet/mobile/briefcase by calling the nearest report room.
Amazingly they always have something even more urgent to do, and beat a hasty retreat.
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22-09-2009, 01:54 PM #9
Just so its clear - domestic helpers do have their own social circles with friends (and in some cases family) here in HK. In fact, our helper has more real friends in HK than I do, along with her sister working down the block and two cousins closeby. My family lives thousands of miles away, as do the families of many expats.
While I do have some idea what's going on in her life, I don't expect her to share personal details any more than I would expect to talk to my boss about personal matters. She has been with us for over three years now and I think that keeping the relationship professional, but also pleasant (we have coffee together, walk the dogs or an occasional dinner), along with giving her enough time off and a decent salary to have a personal life, makes it easier for all parties.Last edited by hello_there; 22-09-2009 at 01:58 PM.
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22-09-2009, 04:01 PM #10
I suggest go to Immigration, Domestic Helper's Department at 6/F, tell them the VCA # then inform the officer you want to cancel the application, i know the process of hiring a domestic helper takes about 2-3 months. If granting the visa is ready file a termination of contract. Make a letter (whatever reason you want to put there) they will accept.
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