I met a hongkonger a year ago through the forum. We had only met once and corresponded only through msns, usually it's her asking for advice because I am older than she is.
I got an invitation to her wedding ceremony and a small informal lunch afterwards which took me by surprise because I don't feel I know well. The problem I have is that the timing for her wedding clashes with my volunteer at my daughter's school. I have agreed to help her teacher out for an hour each week. The other problem I face is that I do not know any of her family or friends so I'm a bit uncomfortable sitting at a table for yumchar with strangers.
My biggest problem is I feel obligated to be in two places at the one time.
Any advice?