What do single expat women think of this?

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    Question What do single expat women think of this?

    I know "concerns" such as this aren't that discussed in this forum. It will be interesting to know, though, what women think of:

    http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/china/2...ent_730390.htm


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    Not an expat female, but you might find this interesting

    I am an expat man in China, who has loads of expat female friends. And as suggested here, most, if not all are single, and not all by choice. But more interesting is this...

    Some years ago I attended a training program for TESOL and teaching English overses in Canada. The school I went to regularly surveys its graduates teaching overseas. The biggest thing that stood out in these surveys was that in all Asian and many non-Asian countries, women seem to suffer from the short end of the dating stick. Of the years worth of surveys they found more than 95% of single men travelling to other countries were at very least dating, if not in a romantic relationship. However, less than 2% of their female graduates ever dated at all.

    I found this very odd to say the least, yet from my own experiences and knowing dozens of Expat ladies here in China, either in person or online, it is simply a fact. Of the 4 expat women(not including those who came with boyfriends/husbands of course) I have known to have relationships in China, 2 of them had short term relationships with Expat men, and the other 2 had rather disaterous relationships with Chinese men. In all 4 scenarios the realtionship was short lived and not particularly satisfying for the ladies involved. Also in all 4 cases the relationship ended because the men, whether Chinese or expat had or developed other "interests" or realtionships. One poor lady fell in love with a Chinese teacher at her school only to find 3 months later he left her without a word to go marry his "real" girlfriend. She had just been a fling.

    However, almost every other woman I have known here has been single by choice, due to the fact they are here for reasons other than relationships or they are too concerned about cultural differences. I know very many attractive and intelligent women here who are simply not into dating at all. I honestly don't understand why, but it seems to be the norm these days.

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    "The majority of men come here because they have issues back home ... or they just can't get a woman back home for a number of reasons," she said. "They come here because they become a big fish in a little pond; they become very important and sought after."
    Whaaaaaaaaaa?

    "I think the main problem in Beijing is that most of the men here I wouldn't touch back home, so why would I here?"
    Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?

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    Krad, BREATHE!!!


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    Oh no...is this thread going to morph into a boys against the girls thread??? Well, remember newspapers sell on sensation and trash...But having said that, I've met some really strange expat teachers, both males and females.


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    I noticed back in the UK that the female asian students often had western boyfriends but the asian men rarely seemed to be with western girls, so I know it is generalising a lot but perhaps there is a relative attractiveness to the opposite gender issue.


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    Extreme generalizations - check.
    Anecdotes passed off as supreme truth - check.
    One person's experiences cited as evidence for a widespread problem - check.

    We have a winner here, bullshit of the week award goes to.. the chinadaily article! Let's have a round of applause, ladies and gentlemen!


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    A mainland friend tells me that white guys in Shanghai are beating them off with a stick.

    I need to go to shanghai

    P.S. Why won't the western women date a Chinese guy? No wonder the women in that article can't find a man, they're cutting their odds pretty severely


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    Interesting read. I guess it kinda makes sense...

    I see lots of Asian guys with Western women on Caine Road....heh

    Last edited by jayinhongkong; 13-11-2006 at 03:32 PM.

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    All that's missing here is the macho:

    "I sympathize with expat females, here is my number ########..."

    Let's organize geoexpat speed dating...I'd be willing to bet more guys show up than girls.