Merchantms.. Yes, I always gave her a salary advance by 25th of the month and she would go the next day to central to remit.. So that her son received the money by 30th. She never mentioned being financially stressed, only that she has to pay mortgage and tuition fee. I allowed part time as an additional income for her .
I had discussed with her we would pay her an annual bonus if she's deserving and definitely increase salary if we have another child . I did not pay above minimum right from start ..I do most of cooking as she doesn't know our cuisine and I would teach her. She has broken pan handles, plate, vacuum cleaner etc.. I used to say ,don't worry it happens, pls be careful next time. We also don't have pets, car, garden ,parties.
When money went missing, I had sat her down and said if u ever need cash, just talk to me, I will lend. She replied that she has never borrowed money in her life, in fact it is her friends who borrow from her !