We are a family of two working parents and a toddler. We have a lovely helper who does a great job caring for the child and the household. We are now expecting a second child, and don't feel confident that our helper can handle all of the work by herself. She has worked in a team of helpers in the past but she's made comments suggesting that if she has to work with a second helper in future, she'd want it to be a relative from back home. I'm not really interested in hiring an unexperienced relative of hers given the young children involved. I've heard stories of helpers quitting when another kid arrives, or saying they are happy to work with a second but then bullying or fighting with the new one. It's just a level of stress we don't need.
So - those who have hired second helpers to work with an established first one - any advice? Tips? And is it possible for US the employers to choose the helper without causing friction and drama? Or do we need to think about looking for a pair of helpers who have a track record and maybe saying bye to the current aunty.
Thanks!