Lack of friends in Hong Kong

[red_salmon]

Thanks House. Hmm...I feel as if I have nothing to offer at times. No good network, no active social life. I guess my self-esteem didn't take it very well that I seldom manage to have really close friends. Will try to break out of this negative chain of thought!

[michaelwong38]

To all the people here in HK having difficulty finding friends, I'm up for hanging out. Got here on October 29, and am ready to start socializing locally.

I dunno, maybe drinking beers and playing vids at someone's place or even having coffee and playing cards at Starbucks. Euchre anyone?

Not clubbing though. I'm 39 and I'm all clubbed out from clubbing 4 nights a week from when I was 18 until I was 23.

I'm a blogger: bigmoneylist.blogspot.com

oh and this is me on linkedin: Michael Wong - LinkedIn

You can learn more about me, so as to assure yourself I'm not weird.

Oh and if anyone's into playing basketball or even running I'd be up for that.

Cheers, michael

shoot me an email if you want to hangout:

[email protected]

[Ling_Ling]

I don't like going to bars etc.

I understand how you feel. Sometimes I have an impression that if one isn't a heavy alocohol drinker and doesn't spend every free minute in LKF, then no way to find any friends.

Maybe that's the reason I have more Asian/local friends than expact/European ones. I definitely prefer a good dim sam to vodka

[cmlg]

Ling Ling

The problem is not related to the culture or something, it seems their own mindset.

Both red_Salmon and Steven said "came back to HK"; possibly they are local people not expatrates.

Red_Salmon, you may find there are many kind of "friend" that you need time to know his/her well.

For example, someone in Facebook has 200 friends, do you think how many friends are "close friends"??

[red_salmon]

Hi cmlg, of course not.

Also, a rather minor problem is, when I wanna join group activities, my boyfriend wants to tag along (and I feel bad/ no reason to ask him not to come along), and I feel it somehow restricts my socialising..

[Tomoe]

Absolutely true!

shall we start a group "Bar/Club/Party Forbidden" ~

I understand how you feel. Sometimes I have an impression that if one isn't a heavy alocohol drinker and doesn't spend every free minute in LKF, then no way to find any friends.

Maybe that's the reason I have more Asian/local friends than expact/European ones. I definitely prefer a good dim sam to vodka

[jinglebells]

On the contrary I find it extremely easy to meet people and make friends in Hong Kong. However, on the flip side many are just passing ships, and after awhile when you grew tired of the LKF scene, you stopped going and these friends seem to disappear as quickly as you met them. After awhile, it just seem to feel lonely here . I kind of miss my family too. Hang in there, at least you still got a bf! I'll just stay tight w/my telly remote and put on my big smiley face again to embrace the 'friendly' city.

[A-J]

i've been here 7+ years and loving it. changed 3 sets of friends due to passing ships fact and that's why now trying to make friends with permanents mostly =) i find it easy to meet ppl in hk but making a real close friends is the same all around the world. it takes time, patience and a few goods ones are enough.