The amount of manly chest-thumping in this thread is off the charts.
main question is why are you asking?
Interesting reading as to how complicated 'some' people make their lives.
Getting married is a celebration, which is what we did. We hired a French restaurant for 100 guests, I pre purchased ( via a wholesaler) and supplied all of the champagne and red wine. Even got some of our friends who don't usually drink, with the help of my real estate mogul uncle in law, got everybody legless drunk! Even the restaurant owner said it was the best party they'd ever held. All up our entire wedding, reception and pre dinner outdoor bar drinks was $120,000hkd and we received a little more than that in Lai See ( red packets ).
When I watch the video of our wedding and especially mid way through the reception and how drunk we all were, it was an absolute scream of a night. I have to say it really was the best wedding I've ever attended and it was my own! lol.
We've been married 14 years now, love the global adventures we've been on and wouldn't trade my wife for anybody. We've always been a good team and my wife never saw herself as a dependent, a pet, or me as a meal ticket, as we both came from equally wealthy family's. I think that has been the key to our success as we never financially relied on each other, just pooled our resources and made a good life without being wasteful or ostentatious about it, especially these days.
Also, one thing I did learn if you want to save money at your wedding, is to not mention that you need things like flowers for a ' wedding' you just need flowers for a birthday party and you'll save over 50%. The moment you do is when the price triples!
At the end of the day, as long as everybody invited has a good time and can barely walk straight to their taxi's at the end of the night, then it was a successful/memorable night.!
I should point out that I didn't have a living Mother or Father in law at the time, so that's possibly why we had no issues with crafting our own night that cost a modest amount, but got A LOT of bang for the bucks! lol
Always remember, it is YOUR wedding, nobody else's!
Last edited by Skyhook; 30-09-2022 at 08:38 AM.
Well, you are a HK-born local, and you are marrying a local Chinese HK girl, so I doubt you have a strong argument to disregard local customs and skip the dowry.