Ok, I’m trying to think of way to say this without sounding bitter, but I think no matter how I phrase it some will jump all over me and say that I am, so here goes. What is it with some women in Hong Kong, notice I said some not all - no stereotyping here, who are only interested in how much money a guy has?
I’ve had this discussion with my female friends who tell me that a guy shows them how much he treasures them buy how much money he spends on them. Huh? Are they really that shallow? There are other ways, besides material possessions, for a man to show how much he cares for his lady love. Which makes me wonder, what do these women do to show how much they like their guy?
These same women tell me that they look for a guy with money for security, a provider. Well men don’t get any security, so what’s in it for us? Whatever happened to liking someone for who they are and how well they will treat you, not the size of his wallet? How would women feel if men only dated women for the size of their boo…oops, nevermind! Now on the flip side are the women who are realistic and claim that rich guys can be arrogant pricks and are looking for a man with more substance. Amen! The same goes for me with women and the aforementioned chest size. I am so much more attracted to brains than beauty, yet the initial physical attraction still needs to be there. The point is, there is so much more to a person than the superficial.
If a woman wants a nice car, a swanky Mid-levels apartment, expensive jewelry and fabulous vacations, why can’t she go out and get them for herself? Is women’s lib dead? Are we in the 21st century or the 18th? Why do these women EXPECT men to provide these things for them? I know lots of women with successful careers making more money than I am who can provide these things, yet they expect me to buy all the time. Some even try the guilt trip with lines like, “my other guy friends never let me pay.” Well goodie for them! Horny buggers with more money than brains who are only trying to get into your pants. We men have a word for women like that, high maintenance. And I have met quite a few women here with maintenance issues; women that won’t even take the time to get to know a guy unless he spends a bundle on her first. I’ve also met lots of women that are very giving and generous in many ways, so don’t accuse me of being jaded or lumping all women into the same category.
I think that’s what befuddles so many men these days is women want to be treated like equals, but still want men to treat them like princesses and pay for everything. Make your choice, which way do you want it?
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all about the wine, roses, romance and spoiling a woman. What chaps my behind is the expectation that it’s my solemn duty to constantly provide dinner at expensive restaurants et cetera. Relationships are supposed to be give and take, and I don’t mean that men give and women take. There should be some reciprocal giving involved here. Yet I get accused of being cheap! Excuse me? Just because I am careful with my money and saving for my future does not make me cheap, because I think a woman should chip in for dinner and a movie now and then. I’ve been unemployed before and it’s important to me to make sure I have money saved for a rainy day; more important to me than ensuring my dates romantic material expectations. I find it rather ironic that a woman who won’t spend a dime on a man has the nerve to call him cheap.
Which brings me to my conclusion, if these women are only looking for a guy to spend his money on them and the men are only obliging to get sex, what does that make these women? That’s right, you guessed it, prostitutes! They call me cheap, I call them shallow. Any thoughts? Let the debate begin.