nor would I expect someone I just met to give me a bed for the night.
Errr.....usually, its the other way around after a night out...
From knowing a few domestic helpers, personally - though not as an employer myself - many of them have young kids they've had to leave behind, whom they worry over, long for, especially around the holidays.
It is reasonable for her, the DH, to approach the OP to ask what she did, and, in turn, just as reasonable for her 'employer' to reply 'no'.
However, IF it's a 'no, not this time' coz, for instance, 'we're rather new at this thing AND fresh to HK & all', perhaps the OP and helper could carry on chatting 'bout the possibilities next time round - other school hols/arrangements? At least, get wind of what's on the other's mind?
Relationships... never easy.
But doesn't always have to be this hard.
Up to you. No criticism meant.
Last edited by emmie; 11-08-2009 at 05:06 PM. Reason: shite grammar
I think the OP as an employer is entitled to just say No.
Like my mum when in my youth I asked why couldn't have girlfriends stay over - she said this may be my home but it was her house
i agree in parts to what most people have advised.
it does depend on the OP and whether she trusts to her DH. However, does she trust her DH's family?
i am sure the OP has no problems with the DH staying at home on her own. but it is the problem with having her family to stay as well.
there is a risk that one of them is the black sheep of the family... would he steal something? run illegal activities?
even if that is far fetched, having more people in the flat espcially some who don't know their way around and dont know how things like the cooker or washing machine etc work just raises the probability of a disaster.
there would probably be no problems at all. but if the OP came back and found that the flat had flooded or burnt down because one of the sons didnt turn off the cooker properly, she would be regetting it all her life. what can she do? fire the DH? make her pay back damages?