Originally Posted by Football16:
I am not sure what he means by comprimise (sic).
No doubt campas has lots of experience with break ups.
Despite his expertise I'd not take the advice that says deal with the husband via a third party. You seem like a very nice person and caring wife and mother so don't change now.
My brother-in-law was subjected to that crap and was not allowed to know where he his ex-wife lived - her rule. He was only allowed to have the son 2 nights/days regardless of common sense. I drove the son to the ex-husband's mom's house in a snow storm one night after a dinner there as the ex-wife had gone skiing and would not let the dad keep the boy another night - but the grandma was fine. Despite my appeal to my wife that it was getting unsafe and I might not make it up our mountain roads home I did it to "keep the peace" for her brother as my wife put it. Today at 20 the kid has more to do with the dad and step mom and less and less to do with the real mom as she deprived him of a lot of contact time where both parents should been supporting the kid. The irony was that this all ended when she found herself a new rich boyfriend and wanted then to roll up to the ex's house in the guy's new Jaguar. What a sad joke that is haunting her now.