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    Excellent topic - I will do my best to answer this as a western guy who married an Chinese Australian Woman.

    1. is it true or a myth that local girls fancy western guys? My wife did, but I am really attractive so it wasnt hard . In all seriousness, locals not so much (unless they were educated abroad), but the Canadian, Australian, UK/US chinese women tend to me more accepting and willing to date western guys. They usually will socialise with them also.

    Some people confuse filipinos with local women. You will find THOUSANDS of filipinos (often under 30) married to old balding white guys (over 60).

    2. heaps of western women find it hard to get a date (myth or reality?)

    Yes and No - Easy to get a date, but the single man scene here can mean if you have half decent looks, you can pick up and screw around all you want. Long term relationships are hard by all women. There are alot of cheating going on. As one poster mentioned, some people come for fun, then go home back to their partners.

    3. most girls in HK are shallow, and finding a marriage partner is hard (myth? reality?)

    Yes, many of my local female friends are always pestering me to set them up with men I know. I feel scared for the men, they practically throw themselves on them. I think after 33+ women generally start worry about babies more and want to settle down. Woman are super successful here and career takes first place in their 20s. Once they are established, finding a partner takes centre stage. Shallow... no all women (and men) want a quality partner. Some demand more.


    4. are there single women there from other ethnic groups there too? Indians, for example?

    Everyone is in Hong Kong. Unfortunately too many french. =P

    5. for men, would you say it's rather hard or easy to meet women?

    Easy to meet women. I would say the easiest place on the planet to meet women.

    6. for women, what do you think of the men in HK (both local and expat).

    Can't answer that as a guy. My wife says that she had to come to Australia to get me cause the quality in HK was so poor. She has had 3 other friends who now have moved to Sydney where they have found great partners, but each of them complained constantly to her that HK had no nice men.

    You know the rule - Good ones are married or gay. True in Hong Kong.


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    Quote Originally Posted by jamesii:
    Some people confuse filipinos with local women.
    Eh? How on earth could you make that mistake?

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    they don't need to stay home and play house wife and rely on a man to "bring home the bacon"
    Yeah, coz they still live with their parents :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by PDLM:
    Eh? How on earth could you make that mistake?
    I must admit I did on day 1. I arrived - 7 years ago - clueless about Hong Kong (some would say nothing has changed), got off the Airport Express in Central and walked along the Skywalk to Sheung Wan.... it was Sunday afternoon and all the maids were picnicking as usual. I felt like a giant as they were (are) generally much smaller than Western folk.

    My illusions were shattered the next day though!

    Generally, I think it is hard to deny that Western guys find it easy to pick up Asian women - this is as true in Japan as it is in Hong Kong, and from what I've seen on my travels it rings true in plenty of other countries also.

    I guess the average Western guy in Asia is probably a lot richer and a lot more educated than the average Asian guy so perhaps it isn't a surprise.... broad strokes and a huge generalisation but I suspect the mean, median and modal average for income and education are higher in the expat population compared with the local population in most countries.

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    Thank you all for your detailed responses. I really appreciate it. Great community here.


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    Just found this thread and wanted to contribute with my personal experience, and I can say they are shallow. Honestly I am good looking and very easy to secure dates and all that, maybe cause they think I'm an expat and I'm making good money, but when I tell them I am a student doing my PhD... many just vanish (not only Hong Kong girls, some foreginers too). According to my experience HK is plenty of gold diggers. Not a problem with me cause I have nothing to be concerned of, but if you are in a good position and trying to look for something meaningful, you better be aware.

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    Hahaha, a girl called Amber just did it to me in Tinder. Funny.


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    Quote Originally Posted by jimlit:
    Yeah, coz they still live with their parents :P
    This is a typical mis-interpretation, where in Anglo-American societies, if you're a working age adult living with parents, it's generally seen as a lack of maturity. (Or these days, that you're saving up to afford your own house or desperately job hunting!). However, in HK, many people who live with parents are actually taking on a lot of responsibility in running those households, housework, key breadwinner(s), putting younger siblings through school, elder care, etc. Especially if they're from lower or average income households and the parents have lower standards of education. It's actually a real test of maturity, particularly in a social structure where parents will always see themselves at the top of the pecking order, and you're never interacting with them on an equal-equal basis. It's a heck of a lot easier to move out and get your own place, under these circumstances. Many Asians live at home out of a sense of responsibility and family attachments, and don't fit the typical 'cliche' of over-reliant on family to wait on them hand and foot.

    Now for the well off types, that's another story altogether.

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    It's not easy to tell who are gold diggers but I suspect they're the ones who don't look at price tags when purchasing goods, out shopping at high end stores when everyone else is working. Actually, they're probably called the gold dugged.

    Despite many claims, I've seen enough to be more objective about this.

    Local girls are the ones who are most financially independent - earning hard earned money. Plenty of percentage point more expats woman here are dependent on the husband's financial package living in South HK island and have no responsibilities - even their DH creates more value than they. So to call locals girls gold digger is off based.
    I've seen several mega rich family whose wife is model-like. Those woman are probably more appropriate to categorize as gold diggers. Local girls most likely wants someone who earns enough for both of them - to which I wouldn't categorize that as gold digging although they might actually think they are because they've never seen real gold diggers at work.


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    I wouldn't say it was 'a heck of a lot easier' to get your own place at all. A young, single person on an average salary would really struggle to pay the rent on an apt here and they're so small that flat-sharing really isn't an option.


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