OK, so village houses are out then. The other way to get "facilities" and also to make loads of new friends (particularly with kids) is to get a membership at somewhere like the HK Football Club or HK Cricket Club. If either of you is happy to commit regularly to play some sport for their teams (which are in various sports, not just football or cricket!) then you should be able to get membership fairly quickly, and the ongoing cost is probably no more than the extra you'd pay for an apartment in a development with facilities (and the facilities at those two clubs are much better than any apartment complex).
Oh, and if your wife would leave you for eating snake then I wonder whether she might have a bit of an issue dealing with the whole culture shock of moving here. It is possible to live in HK more or less as if you were in London / NYC and avoid all of that horrible local stuff, but that makes it a LOT more expensive.