It's quite amusing a lot of people actually do read my stories and make a comment or two. My hubby will be home late tonight, he just whatsapped me. So it's good that I have this space to spill beans out. (Btw, after more than one year of living in HK, I discovered this site..in fact, only yesterday..)
I think one of my problems is that I have a lot of fear. Did Franklin Roosevelt say "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."? I know it's good to meet people and get a chance to make friends but I find it hard to do it in real life. For instance, nassaugirl said she could help me get involved with volunteering- that's very nice of her, and I really do appreciate it. But I feel afraid of actually contacting her and meeting her. I don't know why. It's just my personality- many of you seem to be very active and outgoing, but I am not. I find it difficult to go out on my own and meet strangers in a strange environment.
Louiseamanda is right- English is not my mother tongue, but I am not Chinese and I was educated in the UK. That's the hard part. I cannot associate myself with either Chinese people (though I have a number of good HK friends who studied with me in England- all of them who are back in HK work full-time and I am the only one without work, so it's really not easy to meet with them often) or native English speakers. Of course, I tried to find those housewives from my home country- funnily enough they are all married with kids and always busy. It's not easy to blend into that group without kids.
That's why I posted this thread, looking for childless wives without work. I thought it might be better to find English speaking friends than my mother tongue speaking wives who have no common factors with me, apart from the fact that we are from the same country.
It's easy to say to me "Get out and meet new people." but for some people, in this case 'me', it's very hard. And I am not a type who needs many friends- as you get older, you realise shallow friendship is not worth your time and energy. I just need a couple of really good friends to be happy. Last but not least, I am a quiet type and feel very uncomfortable in a noisy environment (never been out for clubbing or standing at a bar). So it takes time for me to open up.
Based on all your comments, I think it might be the best to join a small group gathering first and see how it goes. I might need more courage to get myself involved in volunteering. FYI, I got these health problems in HK which I never experienced before and this made it even more difficult for me to go out and travel around the town. I am so horrified of insects and bugs in HK, as I have severe allergies to them. By coming over here, I lost my health (my skin got ruined...) and my mental, and this fact is what limits myself even more to my shelter, home.