Although I would not have a DH, it is fair enough if other's want one. Driver's on the other hand I just think are excessive. To hear someone call them a necessity is just bonkers. How, oh how do the rest of us get by without them
Then so is having a DH.To hear someone call them a necessity is just bonkers.
I wonder how some people get by without air-condition, for me it is a necessity.How, oh how do the rest of us get by without them
[QUOTE=MovingIn07;471443]Nice response. Although I can hardly take seriously anyone who calls into question a desire to raise one's own children in the first place! I guess that must be what separates you and him - you actually appear to have wanted your children and have a desire to spend time with them yourself![/QUOTE]
get bent. that attitude is ridiculous. are you seriously equating having a DH with not wanting to spend time with one's children?
My wife quite rightly wanted a career and a child (as did I). The child comes first, without question and we spend as much time with ours as is humanly possible outside of the 9 to 6. I can only guess that you also do not have kids because it all seems so easy from the outside. By hiring a DH, we chose a compromise that suited mother and father and son. and very happy we (all four of us) are.
and all the axe wielding maniac stuff - pure middle class guilt-induced nonsense.
But two questions--you both seriously leave your house at 9 AM and return by 6 PM?
How old is your son?
The axe wielding maniac stuff is not pure middle class guilt-induced nonsense; it was meant to be humorous. Perhaps I should have said "if the kids end up running drugs across the PRC border" or something. My point was that it will be our fault which, to me, seems better than having something go wrong knowing you had your kid(s) raised by a DH. To me, the guilt would come from having been able to raise the kids without a DH but not doing so.
leave at 8.40, return at 6.30. every day
if my kid ends up running drugs then a. he better get some for me (joke) and b. it will be all my fault regardless of DH or not as I (and my wife) are the ones responsible for raising him, setting him examples and teaching him right and wrong. the helper is just that: help. she is not a replacement parent.
do you really think people with a DH just switch off from raising the child? if so, you are being so naive. how about working parents in the UK, where the grandparents help out? are they also wrong, or is it just because the DH is not a family member.
This post is fab - went in at page 6 or so and have absoutely no idea what it has to do with Shatin, Tai Po, Ma On Shan etc but thoroughly entertaining anyway!!!
Keep it up!!!!