the problem with 'PLANNING FOR THE WORST TO HAPPEN' is that it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. you have COMPLETELY the wrong attitude.
you are NOT expressing a few reservations about the move, you are coming up with EVERY SINGLE POSSIBLE problem and dwelling on it. THAT is why you are not garnering any sympathy at all. think about it... you are coming to an expat forum and talking like this is the worst thing that could happen in your life... to people that HAVE packed up everything and moved here....MANY of us in worse situations than you.
you are 25.... i was 22
you have some friends here.... i knew NO ONE!!! NOT ONE PERSON!
you speak the language.... I didn't
you have are scared stiff about it.... i thought of it as an adventure and i blossomed.
IF YOU HAVE THE RIGHT ATTITUDE, you will do well. IF YOU HAVE YOUR ATTITUDE, you will fail miserably, fulfill your doomsday prophecy and run home with your tail between your legs.
you say you are scared of being lonely, so we suggest looking at a different kind of accomodation... you say, "oh, i might meet the wrong people!" YOU DON'T WANT TO SUCCEED.... at least THAT is the attitude you are protraying to us. the tone of your posts is VASTLY different to the one portrayed by the man who is moving with his wife and has 'concerns'... you don't have CONCERNS you have life-stifling FEARS....