Thank you everyone for your posts!! It's a lot to digest!!
I think visas are not a problem for us. It's a multi-national Chinese corporation, and there are people currently in the company doing what I am proposing, so I'm sure it's not a problem with visas. (But, we can't currently discuss our situation with them since they are not aware of some of the company's future plans.) I've only heard horror stories about their commute, which you seem to be confirming!
Healthcare in Shenzhen is a concern? Just the lack of facilities? Besides reading the forums, it's not as easy to get info on the area. Real estate websites, which also offer maps and tidbits of info are hard to find. I'll keep watching the forums, though, thanks. Any other good places to look for Shenzhen info? My major concern would be good schools & sufficient expat support systems/activities. HK seems so much easier for me if I have to be the single parent (more or less) of 3 during the week.
Spitting coffee because...? ... Shatin isn't the sticks? (Remember, I'm still trying to sort EVERYthing out!!) I am having a hard time figuring out where the International Christian School is going to be located in Shatin, if there are expat places to live close by, and if that's also by the KCR. I want it all, don't I?? I just feel that our highest priorities are school and reducing commute time, both hopefully without the use of a car. ICS hasn't responded to my email for more info yet. Any place to find a detailed map of Kowloon or NT? I need a Chinese mapquest (in English)!
What about Hong Lok Yuen? There's a school out there (although I think primary) it's closer to the border, but I don't know about expat community. From the maps of the real estate places I've seen, it seems like I would need a car out there. Anyone willing to break this down for me? Where would I need a car, and where would I never miss one? Just seems like once you get a car, you're lifestyle would become more isolated. It looks like there are some beautiful places to live out there, however.
You all (y'all) are so helpful!!! What seemed like it would be such an exciting opportunity seems more difficult/worrisome every day!! Thanks again for all your wisdom!