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    Do you regret moving to Hong Kong?

    I have been thinking should we move to HK for a week now. Changing mind probably 50 times. Being a HK native and move to Boston for 13 years. I felt like HK has changed a lot since I was planning to move back from HK-3 years ago. Maybe because I has a almost 4 years old son, I worried that air pollution is not good for him. I worried that he couldn't get into a good school. We won't be living as comfortablely in HK than Boston. I kept asking myself why should I move now since my son can for sure get good education here.But is the international and muticulture for my son and being close to my family in HK really worth to move back? I used to think so but when opportuntiy comes, I really hestiate. My husband reassure me we can move back in 2 years if thing are that bad but I just have a hard time to put us into this test? I feel like a wimp.

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    Do not feel like a wimp, you are just considering your child. Kids are resilient though, I just told my 13 year old that we were moving country again (her third move in 5 years) and she said "again? OK." No one can make this decision for you though.

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    I don't think you are a wimp because it is a big decision and requires timely planning.

    It is tough with the school part. Maybe cause my kids (ages 4 and 5) have problems to begin with, but eventually I found a great occupational therapist and speech therapist for both of them. Took us 2 years of planning to move from Los Angeles to HK. My decision is family. I guess cause I moved a lot when I was a child and it is nothing out of the norm for me.

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    situation is you have to accept you can not have it all in life.
    What's more, people have different needs at different times.

    If I were you I would stay just for the sake of my son.
    Air pollution really is bad and I don't think it will change ( to the better! ) in the near to medium term future. I also would not want my son getting exposed to an overly materialistic society. I would let my son catch up with the multicultural lifestyle later in life.
    It's a trade off.

    Having said that, for me coming to HK has paid off big time as I have learnt an awful lot of things which I would never had bumped into if I had chosen to live in my native country.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maxmom0901:
    I have been thinking should we move to HK for a week now. Changing mind probably 50 times. Being a HK native and move to Boston for 13 years. I felt like HK has changed a lot since I was planning to move back from HK-3 years ago. Maybe because I has a almost 4 years old son, I worried that air pollution is not good for him. I worried that he couldn't get into a good school. We won't be living as comfortablely in HK than Boston. I kept asking myself why should I move now since my son can for sure get good education here.But is the international and muticulture for my son and being close to my family in HK really worth to move back? I used to think so but when opportuntiy comes, I really hestiate. My husband reassure me we can move back in 2 years if thing are that bad but I just have a hard time to put us into this test? I feel like a wimp.
    Your concerns about Hong Kong really are well-founded. Pollution, crowding, tiny living spaces, lack of choice in everything, etc.

    In addition, HK is not really multicultural in the conventional sense, unless you're thinking in terms of the HK vs. Mainland. Cities like Boston (or, for that matter, NYC and London) are much more multicultural than HK.

    If nearness to family still left in HK is the major issue, why not buy them tickets to come and visit you and your family in the USA once or a couple of times a year?
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    The only regret I feel about moving to HK is the air pollution. This problem seems to be getting worse. If you are worried about the health of your children and you live more comfortably in Boston stay there for a while and see how things work out for you. Another factor to consider is the age of your children. They may be at an age where uprooting them to live some place else would make them feel badly. My advice would be to stay where you are if you are living comfortably.


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    I have not been to Boston, but it is a surprise to see somewhere like Hong Kong described as multicultural. Living in a grown-up city like London or New York you do see a true multicultural society.... HK is predominantly Chinese, Western Expats and SE Asian helpers.

    Your concerns about pollution and schools are well founded. It is tough to find school places for the first year, and with a four year old you would be pitched straight into that. You also mention you would be living more comfortably in Boston.... so it is hard to see the incentive to move here? Is it financial?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheBrit:
    I have not been to Boston, but it is a surprise to see somewhere like Hong Kong described as multicultural. Living in a grown-up city like London or New York you do see a true multicultural society.... HK is predominantly Chinese, Western Expats and SE Asian helpers.

    Your concerns about pollution and schools are well founded. It is tough to find school places for the first year, and with a four year old you would be pitched straight into that. You also mention you would be living more comfortably in Boston.... so it is hard to see the incentive to move here? Is it financial?
    I guess instead of muticultural, I actually mean living in a big city. The reason of moving back is my family really love my son. We have been traveling a lot in these past years to just let him know them.

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    I think in terms of your son's age he will be fine BUT finding a school may be your biggest issue.
    Re the age thing, my son was born in Japan and we left there when he was 4 to go to Singapore. Sure, at first he was upset at leaving his friends behind but he soon coped with that - then after only 18 months in Singapore we moved again. He took it all in his stride. He is an outgoing kid though, makes friends very easily.


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    Quote Originally Posted by maxmom0901:
    I guess instead of muticultural, I actually mean living in a big city. The reason of moving back is my family really love my son. We have been traveling a lot in these past years to just let him know them.
    Living in a big city is overrated.

    Imagine your son getting bumped in the head again and again by tourists on the sidewalks. Think about how he'll feel when he looks up at the smoggy sky and a big drop of something (aircon water drip or aerosolized gray water from leaking exposed pipes) drips into his eye. Visualize taking him to the dermatologist or respiratory specialist for the first of dozens of visits when he develops eczema, constant runny/stuffy noses, or worse. Think about what it would be like to make him stay up until 10PM studying for high-stakes exams repeatedly.

    If your family really loves your son, and I'm sure that they do, they wouldn't want to subject him to life in HK. At the moment, you're in a developed country with clean(er) air, more living space, a higher standard of living generally, and better future prospects. Moving back here would represent a huge step backwards in pretty much every respect.

    My wife and I are sticking it out for now, for purely mercenary reasons, but we'll be leaving HK either shortly before or shortly after we have children.
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