Carang any man will want to feel like a protector, provider and so on of the family. Call me old fashioned, but these are my values. Now you will see, many other men understand this. And even you what would you really prefer? A man who is helpless while you are a modern working women working so hard? Most women dream of a pampered life, and most of these business women exectuives are not truely happy.
Why try to make a positive thing sound like a negative or out dated? Since thousands of years men have protected the family they love, provided for the women (or groups of his women), caught wild animals to feed. The women, until very recently stayed at home, in the cave or rent, and protected children, prepared meals, gathered fruit and berried. MUch of this is deeply breed instinct into a man.Times are more modern but values for most men remain the same and I can tell you the true desires for women also (although some are truely confused now, and extremely unhappy and neutotic as a result, probably American women in New York worst of all).
chateau:i think you woke up this morning and thought you lived in 1950....
my husband was a house husband for 3 years and i loved it. he worked, but not for money. he was also studying.
i also think that many women are happiest when working outside the home and that it is very important for a woman to be able to earn a living to support herself, so she doesn't have to rely on any man for the necessities of life.
Last edited by carang; 04-07-2012 at 09:53 PM.
Cara, I am happy that you did this, but can we agree that female tutors are in better demand than male tutors?
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Obvious to see who wears the trousers in this relationship.
Taking off my call it as I see it hat and putting the nice hat on.
Get your cv up to date and network your butt off, Speak to headhunters out here and see just how marketable you are right now and what you need to do to get more marketable apart from being more more proficient in Cantonese and or Mandarin.
Chateau
You're a prize plonker from the Edwardian era that's for sure.
If anything, at least intially, I'll be a drain on the in-laws.
Taking the land out of it, the apartment we'll be living in is bigger than our house, and it's not a small house.
My point exactly. I don't want to lose the security of a government job and then not have things work out.
My in-laws are likely to pay my wife a generous salary, and they spoil our children.
The net monthly profit for the business is more than I would earn in a year, and I'm a middle management government employee. So for the immediate future I don't think this will be a problem.
OK, so my constructive advice would be that if you sacrifice your career for the sake of your wife's family then make damn sure you get recompensed for that. If you don't have a suitable pre-nup then get some sort of agreement that gives you (in a way that would survive divorce or separation) a substantial share of the family business to recognise the sacrifice that you are making. You are and always will be an outsider as far as her family are concerned, so any agreements or understandings that aren't nailed down in a legally watertight way are worthless.
But I'm pretty sure that's not the advice you want to hear, so I guess it won't be regarded as "constructive".