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  1. #31

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    Accurate numbers here :

    Census and Statistics Department - Statistical Table

    Look for "Population by Ethnicity"

    HC

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    I think the fundamental flaw is that you are looking at this as math. I think the answer lies in economics.

    Any economic model has two components: preferences (in this case, what you find desirable in a potential mate) & contraints (a potential mate that finds you desirable). Essentially, the market is defined by what you want and what you can get.

    Constraints (what you can get) depend on both equilibrium (who dates whom, dependent on competition) and behaviour (what strategy are you using to find a date?).

    Economics is based on the assumption that markets are efficient. If you are unable to find a partner, it means that it is because:
    a. your preferences need to be adjusted (your expectations are too high)
    b. there is far too much competition in the market (differentiate yourself)
    c. your strategy is incorrect (are you looking in the right places?)

    Hopefully that helps.

    Having said that, I don't think it's any easier for the guys either.

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    My advice - stop looking. Join some expat orientated events (not dating events) - take a look at Meetup.com, there is hiking (many of us here are also hikers) and various eating clubs and scrabble and stuff. Just pick something you enjoy. Go along, enjoy it, socialise and let the rest happen naturally.

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    Arrow

    Telling someone to stop looking for a partner is like telling someone to stop working so they'll end up rich--it ain't gonna happen.

    For the record, I'm 30, 6'1 215, have my own business, cook all kinds of stuff and I like good scotch, rum and Cuban cigars (not much of a wine person)!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Freetrader:
    I don't know about that. I think the post is odd myself, given that she states that she doesn't want to do any 'online dating' then she posts what is essentially an online dating add (without a picture, though, making it impossible to judge her self-assessment).

    Taking her question at face value, one of the major reasons for the bad dating scene for white women in HK is that the HK (and for those who venture into Communist territory, the Mainland) women provide some pretty tough competition. That doesn't mean a white girl can't compete - far from it. But she has to have pretty good game to compete in this market, whereas back home the average is, well, not so good. Plenty of gui mui have a bit of chip on their shoulder about Asian women, presumably for this reason. I may get hate mail for that comment, but it is simply a fact of life here in HK, and plenty of other places in Asia.
    To me it didn't as much sound odd as kind of plain bummed out. I've read odder post for similar.
    Well from my hermit cave, there doesn't seem to be a large population of men between 25-35 (40 and up seems to be more, guessing) here to begin with and
    for 'decent' I would weed out:
    1) anyone working in finance
    2) slept with hooker
    3) the arrogant/smug
    So what that leaves about 5 guys in HK?
    then pray to a higher power they look normal.
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    Thanks HC

    From table 139:
    >>White: 0.7% (2001) and 0.5% (2006).
    Way less than what I thought.....

    Although it doesnt say explicitly, the 2.1% Filipino makes me guess that they don't only count PRs but all ppl living in HK.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ramdom:
    To me it didn't as much sound odd as kind of plain bummed out. I've read odder post for similar.
    Well from my hermit cave, there doesn't seem to be a large population of men between 25-35 (40 and up seems to be more, guessing) here to begin with and
    for 'decent' I would weed out:
    1) anyone working in finance
    2) slept with hooker
    3) the arrogant/smug
    So what that leaves about 5 guys in HK?
    then pray to a higher power they look normal.
    well apart from the age, of which im too young,
    1) Im an engineer, no bank types here.
    2) Would never do that, i still have my British morals within me
    3) i dont think so...haha

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    Why don't attractive, wealthy, interesting, (characterstic) people just come up to me and ask me on a date? The world is unfair.

    Western Caucasian people only!

    According to the 2006 census there are only 36 384 "White" people, which doesn't leave many from the ages of 25-35, throw in attractive, interesting, and funny leaves 4 which are all taken.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ramdom:
    To me it didn't as much sound odd as kind of plain bummed out. I've read odder post for similar.
    Well from my hermit cave, there doesn't seem to be a large population of men between 25-35 (40 and up seems to be more, guessing) here to begin with and
    for 'decent' I would weed out:
    1) anyone working in finance
    2) slept with hooker
    3) the arrogant/smug
    So what that leaves about 5 guys in HK?
    then pray to a higher power they look normal.
    I comply with points one to three, I am 27 and I am pretty normal looking. However, I can warrant to you that I am anything but decent! Ask my missus!
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    Quote Originally Posted by aliendavid1:
    According to the 2006 census there are only 36 384 "White" people, which doesn't leave many from the ages of 25-35, throw in attractive, interesting, and funny leaves 4 which are all taken.
    Well, may be, just may be, in last 5 years there have been an influx of expats and that probably have taken up the count of eligible white men in HK. She just might need to find that group.
    Alternatively, she could follow M07's advise and just join activities, meet new people and who knows she might put another thread one day, asking for witnesses..... just saying.

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