I think I am on this one with hull, but, I guess in the end I took a stand with my ex who had zero common sense as to how to behave in front of ppl. The moment I found out she insulted my family, like really insulted, not just said things in the privacy of our bedroom, I realised this is never going to work, so now wife's an ex and mum is still my dear mum .
There is a 3rd group - not a momma's boy and not dancing to the wife's tune; your own man who knows that you put your wife ahead of a meddling mother.
I once went out with a 47 yo back when i was in my mid 30's. She was pretty hot but a little bit leathery. Anyway her daughter was 22 and a model. That made me hotter! I had fantasies about that, though, whatever those fantasies I had they didn't eventuate.
Hull, she's not speaking to her mom, cuz mum is upset she married you?
LC, I am in the 3rd category. My wife quite often defers to me as the man. But other times I remember she is from a head hunting tribe.
I'm actually closer to my wife's family than my own. Her parents are great, I talk to at least one of her sisters every day. They came for a visit at Easter and one time after playfully teasing her she told me to shut up...dad sat her down and gave her a talking to about respecting her husband! :P