A letter that many husbands have been tempted to write to their wives who stay at home.
Perhaps more applicable to many expats in HK who are without packages and often need dual incomes to keep their noses above the water. Not as applicable to those with packages, but worth reading, as you never know what happens when you get sent back home and do not have your allowances, helpers and bonuses to match...
What does happen when people return back home and are faced with the loss of their expat allowances and low cost help?
Also to his credit the author does acknowledge that the wife's job of raising the kids is equally important, but just needs a helping hand financially.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...yself-to-deathI’ve climbed the professional ladder reasonably well. We have the trappings of middle-class success – a nice house in a safe, quiet neighborhood; annual holidays; happy, healthy children; money saved for their college years. But it has come at enormous personal cost to me. My stress level has increased dramatically with added responsibilities at work and my health has deteriorated. People who haven’t seen me for years flinch when we meet again and I’ve attended more than one event at which I have overheard someone remarking on how much I’ve aged.
I don’t think I can do this for another 25 years. I often dream of leaving my firm for a less demanding position, with you making up any financial deficit with a job – even a modest one – of your own. I’ve asked, and sometimes pleaded, for years with you to get a job, any job. Many of my free hours are spent helping with the house and the kids, and I recognise that traditional gender roles are often oppressive, but that cuts both ways. I would feel less used and alone if you pitched in financially, even a little.