We are talking exactly the same thing. You see, I look like a dick and an ass, but my name is Howard. I prefer to be called Howard. I used to be called dick because I looked like a dick, but now I go by Howard. My choice eh.I completely understand and respect your view. I'm not sure we were discussing 'legal' status here...more how people 'self identify' in spite of physical realities.
My name is Howard. I told you my name is Howard.All I am saying is, I fully respect your right to self identify as whatever you like. For your part, I hope you can respect my right not to have to play along.
In the private context, if its just the 2 of us shooting the shit and you keep calling me by something else, I'd simply think you were thick or ignorant and move on. No need to waste time with such pricks.
In the public context, if we were at a work place, a public university, in a government office or similar professional arena, and you pulled the same stunt, I'd do my utmost to get your unprofessional ass fired. There is no room for thick or ignorant people in positions of influence.